Your Steps Matter!


It Was Just Us......

Many of you have been rocking with me for quite some time and you know a little about my back story. For those who are not too familiar with it, here's a quick synopsis.

I grew up in a single parent home with my sister. My mother worked hard and made sure that we had all of the essentials we needed in life and even splurged for the things we wanted. There were a lot of activities that were not conducive to a healthy upbringing and so I had my mind made up that when I graduated high school, I was out! In June 1997 I graduated and moved on campus at Virginia State University. I was not really interested in learning and furthering my education as much as I was about getting away from home.

There I was, 17 years old, away from home, living the college life! Free to do WHATEVER I WANTED! With no direction from home, no one to hold my hand at school and no true plan, I was set up to fail. Within three semesters at VSU I became a full blown statistic. I met a guy that, I guess, filled a void in the first semester, moved off campus and in with him by the second semester and pregnant by the third.

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They Deserved Better!

I realized that the road that I was traveling was exactly what I ran from when I was 17 years old. I became what I saw; 20 years old with two children (both girls). It was up to me to ensure that my girls NEVER felt "trapped" in their own home based on the life I was choosing for them, so I had to grow up and alter my steps! I had to learn how to maneuver around having three felonies on my background and land a better paying job. I had to realize that the father of these girls didn't "owe" me (or them) anything and I had to focus on us. I had to buckle down and turn my goal of getting out of section 8 housing into a reality; of our first home with a backyard to play in. I had to get back into school and complete my education. And that is what I did because they, knew, WE deserved better.

This came with me OWNING MY ISH for real. I had to take accountability for how I wanted to feel, how I wanted to live and understanding what I deserved to have. Over the next 10 years, those two little girls watched their mother meet a man (I wasn't even looking) that cared more about us then he did his own self. They watched me earn my AAS, BS and MS while working my way up to management levels in companies. Throughout this time we welcomed an additional three children into the mix and I started three businesses. I made sure that I had open communication with all of our children and focused on the oldest two a little more because they would soon be entering the '"real world".

All of the children knew that C's on report cards were a no go and that they were only required to complete their education through high school. What they chose from there was up to their desired path and all options were discussed upon graduation from high school. Both girls decided their path which included college. By the time they were entering their final year of school, 2017 and 2018, the other children were 11, 10 and 6.

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